Fun. Husbands, boyfriends, fiances, we want to have fun! Remember when your relationship was just starting out, how much fun you had together? Why not try to recreate a little bit of that this year. Take her bowling, mini-golfing, to a funny movie, dancing, whatever it is that she enjoys doing with you. As moms our lives tend to revolve around caring for our families, and that’s such important work, but it’s not always fun. Don’t get me wrong, sometimes it’s really fun! But recreating some of the fun you had at the beginning of your relationship when it was just the two of you would mean so much to her this year!
To feel beautiful. Whether the woman in your life is a fashionista, always wearing the best clothes and latest trends, or she lives in a mom-bun and yoga pants, she wants to feel beautiful in your eyes. Words are an excellent way to communicate this- tell her she’s beautiful, and don’t let her brush it off. As women our insecurities often cause us to downplay a compliment- don’t let her get away with it this time. Actions are another great way to make her feel beautiful- show her off. Take her out to dinner and hold her hand, put your arm around her- show her that she is prized and that you are proud to tell the world she’s yours.
To feel acknowledged. As moms, a lot of what we do on a day-to-day basis is not always visible to the eye. You might come home to see a messy house, but what you didn’t see is the learning, the love, and the fun that took place that day. Or maybe she just survived the day- sometimes that’s the best we can do. Whatever her day holds, I can guarantee you that she’s pouring all of herself into caring for her family. Acknowledge that. Let her know that you see how much she gives, both physically and emotionally, to her family. You don’t have to make a big speech or anything, but verbally acknowledging how much she does for your family will go a long way in making her feel appreciated and loved.
Romance. Maybe you’re great at this, maybe you’re not, but we don’t care! I’m not talking big gestures here, either. When was the last time you danced in the living room to whatever music was playing or hugged and kissed her just because, with no expectations of it leading to anything else? That’s what I’m talking about! When your relationship was just beginning what things did you do to woo her, to communicate just how much you adored her? Do those things again!
Flowers. There’s something about the gift of flowers that is just so romantic! They’re such a classic and timeless gift and they bring such beauty to any home. Whenever my husband gives me flowers I love to display them right in the middle of the house so I can see and smell them as much as possible! They’re a visual reminder of the beauty of our love for each other. In my opinion, the best quality flowers come from 1-800-Flowers.com. I love them because they’re not only fresh and promptly delivered, but they are absolutely beautiful and last for weeks! Don’t wait another minute, order her flowers today for Valentine’s Day so she’ll get them on time! The thoughtful gesture will make her feel so special and loved!
No relationship is perfect, don’t get down on yourself if you’re not doing things like this all the time for your wife! My husband does these things throughout the year, and I love that about him, but we also let weeks, or even months go by without romancing each other. Consider this Valentine’s Day a reset button on your relationship! You don’t have to pay a skywriter to put anything in the clouds or buy her expensive gifts (although I’m sure she wouldn’t balk at that!), actions really do speak so much louder than words. Your time is one of the most precious gifts you can give- give her your time and your attention this year. Listen to her, dance with her, hold her, love her. Do these things and I can guarantee you’ll have the best Valentine’s Day together you’ve had yet!